From an early age, Patrick felt he was different from other boys. He measured himself by what he saw around him, like many young people do that struggle with homosexuality or gender dysphoria. Like Patrick, some children may feel displaced or extremely uncomfortable living in the God-ordained gender they were born with. What do we do when our children are walking around questioning their identity and looking to transform in hopes of finding what they believe is happiness and peace of mind? Patrick’s mom sought help from what she believed was an expert in this field. This expert supported her son’s confusion with his identity and treated him based on what Patrick wanted, not on what he needed.
We all know that children can change their minds very quickly. They are influenced very easily by what they see and hear in their environment. If the child doesn’t fit what others have labeled as a standard, they often seek ways to change to fit in. They are children and children change their minds constantly. One moment they want to play basketball and then they drop it and take dance class. It is up to the parents to give guidance and wise instruction to help the child understand themselves and the world around them. This parent allowed the child to dictate what was best for his life. When a child grows, and matures, what they want at 12 years old changes at age 14, as was the case with Patrick. The girl that Patrick wanted to become faded away as most things do as children grow up. His body started changing and becoming a man regardless of what his mind wanted to be at 12 years old. This is just my opinion, but I believe this is a perfect example of why kids are not prepared to make these types of decisions even before they reach puberty.
Where do we place blame for this mishap? Was this the fault of the doctor or the mother? Should this type of decision be left in the hands of a young child who has very little experience with life and cannot accurately determine the consequences of their decisions later in life? What about the growing cases of young boys and girls like this young man? We don’t allow children to sign their name on a legal document until they become of age because they are not mature enough to take responsibility for what they are agreeing to. Why would we expect them to be responsible enough to make such an important decision as changing their gender?
Children need guidance and nurturing. They need wise counsel along with love to help them make choices for their lives that will not have negative consequences. We all need to get together and pray for our young people that they will not fall prey to ungodly agendas that will warp their thinking, giving them hope that is not built on Christ. Children are very impressionable and peer pressure can be life altering for them. It is so important for parents to help balance their children and to weed out the thorns of those things that attack their gender identity or sexual orientation.